Her Secret Sex Fantasies

The average woman craves sex daily and wants to be wilder in bed. Here's how you can make it happen tonight

Seduction

Everyone wants sex, but no one's talking dirty. Dig deep into the sexual psyches of thousands of men and women around the country, as I did, and this little irony stands out. Lack of communication -- not lack of interest -- is the top bedroom complaint for men. For women, it ranks second, just behind too-short foreplay.



That's why I brought both sides to the table for a sex summit (hoping, of course, that it'd end with both sides on the table). With the help of a few friends, I asked 1,000 men and women to tell me everything -- what they like, what they hate, what they've done, what they're dying to try. The results were as surprising -- men and women want sex equally often -- as they were enticing: Most women want to experiment and are just waiting for you to ask.




There is so much hype about vibrators right now -- and there's no doubt that they help a girl get where she needs to go in five minutes or less. But I'm more interested in vibes that you guys can use WITH your women. Because if you're not having orgasms together (and by that I mean in the same room -- having them at the same time is like spotting a freakin' Leprechaun), it's nowhere near as much fun. Plus, when you come in each other's presence, your oxytocin levels soar, causing your bond to get even stronger. Good stuff.

In my opinion, finger vibes are the best for guys to invest in. Because if you already tend to her clitoris manually, you don't have to change up your moves. They'll just be seriously intensified. My current favorite: The Chandra ($82, www.babeland.com). It comes with finger bands of different sizes so it's guaranteed to fit your digit snugly, and not fall off while the action is hot. And it has a charger instead of batteries, so it's both cordless and light. She'll love how this perky little tool looks, too. So you don't have to be shy about springing it on a goody-two-shoes.